How I Revalidated My Own Feelings
Holy Moly! I had to work my mental health rebalancing tools yesterday big time. Somebody told me that my feelings don’t matter, that they are invalid, that I’m plain wrong. They said “Ali, when I was in early recovery, I was taught to place facts over feelings”. For context, I do not believe this was said in a learning capacity. So when I hung up the phone after thanking this person for their call, I burst into tears. I’m sure my caller wasn’t particularly happy about the conversation either – but that’s an assumption (an idea for another post perhaps). I then fed my floofs and watched the start of the V8’s. I used my wellbeing tools – a lot of them. I reminded myself of the following combination of facts and feelings: I stared at a dot to clear and reset my mindset – there’s another post about how to do this. I do matter. My feelings are valid regardless of anyone else’s opinion. There are 8.2 billion people on this planet and not everyone likes or agrees or will listen to me. I managed my feelings by not allowing anger to set in, because I’m the one who creates the meaning – no-one else. People listen but don’t hear and that’s not in my control. I rang my friend who I was supposed to go over for dinner with and told her I needed to just stay home and curl up on the couch. She is a wise and loving friend and she reminded me of WISE-MIND, which is taught in a mental wellbeing context (another post idea). That feelings and emotions are valid, as much as facts and logic. Phew! My work assisting people with their feelings are not in fact invalid! I watched the news about […]





